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Different Kinds of Abstinence Programs

Some programs that claim to be "abstinence" programs, are not really. "Abstinence Plus" is really comprehensive sex education. It gives barely a mention to abstinence, but spends much time on the promotion of condoms and contraceptives. In true abstinence programs 53.7% of the material relates to abstinence, versus only 4.7% in "abstinence-plus" programs. True abstinence programs help to develop character, self-control, and respect. True abstinence ("abstinence-only") programs have been accused of being too moralistic, not giving accurate information, and of leaving youth unprepared for the tough decisions they have to make. These are false claims. Studies have shown that youth attending abstinence programs know at least as much as other youth about sexually transmitted disease (STD) and how hormonal contraceptives like the "pill" do not protect against STD, and they have the same knowledge about condoms as youth attending comprehensive sex education programs.

DOES ABSTINENCE ACHIEVE HAPPINESS?

In recent times there has been much debate about what is needed by youth to help them navigate a super-sexualized society. There have been suggestions that abstinence programs are ineffective and should be de-funded. Many feel it is useless to try to turn our culture back to a time when the norm was waiting until marriage. Some even believe it is impossible for young people to abstain until they marry.
Abstinence is often cast in a negative light, and viewed by some as a deprivation of something essential for life. Youth may not be told about the positive impact chastity, or sexual purity, can have on their selection of a future spouse, their marriage, and their family, even on their education and career. They may not be told that those who wait until marriage are much less likely to divorce because they learn communication, respect, and self-control, all essentials for a good, lasting marriage.
Young people often feel a lack of fulfillment from the “hook-up” mentality. Many have regrets, and no contraceptive can prevent the heartbreak and emptiness of relationships that “take” rather than “give”. Youth aren’t looking for depression, loneliness, single-parenthood, or the worry of potentially fatal sexually transmitted diseases. What they are seeking is a happy life with someone they respect and want to spend a lifetime with, but they may need help developing the skills to attain this.

Chastity, or sexual purity, rather than limiting choices and opportunities, gives freedom for achieving goals. Most importantly chastity allows the development of self-respect and respect for others, communication skills, and the ability to enact values making life choices more informed and fulfilling, not only in the choice of a spouse, but in all areas of life.